Practically speaking, putting feminist and misandrist on the same scale is what lets people dismiss any feminist as a man-hater, so the framing itself does damage. Define terms: a feminist advocates for equality between the sexes; a misandrist holds contempt for men. One is a position on how society should work, the other is a prejudice. They're not rival teams, so asking which is "better" is close to a category error. My opponent may say feminism can curdle into misandry, and sure, individuals can. But that's a failure of a person, not a rival of a cause.