Picture a small child with a fever at 2 AM. Her parent loves her fiercely but can't quite tell if the fever is an emergency or not, can't remember the last dose of medicine, can't find the phone number for the after-hours clinic. That's not a hypothetical—that's a chain of cause and effect that repeats in real homes.
You make a fair point that couples where only one partner has Down syndrome face different challenges. It's not the same situation, and I'll grant you that. But the broader pattern still holds: studies consistently show elevated risk of children entering state care when a parent has intellectual disabilities. That's not about bias in who gets counted—it's about what happens when parenting demands exceed a person's capacity.
And honestly, saying cause and effect doesn't matter on an individual level is missing the point. For the child, it's entirely individual. It's their life, their missed appointments, their inconsistent care.
Rights matter. But we already accept that capacity determines responsibility for driving, for voting, for managing money. Parenting demands more of us than any of those. If we know the odds of instability are high, why gamble with a child's entire foundation?
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