Why does the other side keep asking me to defend one religious founder's marriage instead of defending organized religion as a whole? That question is about a single historical figure, not about whether churches and hierarchies are a net positive. So no, I didn't dodge it. I pointed out it's their problem, not mine. An institution that shields its founder from moral scrutiny is showing exactly the pattern I'm describing.
And they still haven't answered mine: what do organized religions provide that secular groups can't? Charity, community, comfort, all of it exists without doctrine, often with less overhead. Meanwhile the harms are structural, not accidental. Unaccountable authority. Criticism treated as betrayal. Abuse covered up for decades while leaders look the other way.
So my question stands. If the good stuff isn't unique and the bad stuff is baked into the structure, how is that a net positive?